The 29 Rules for Smart Parenting are intended to help the reader to become more effective as parents and teachers. On this basis, any advice to establish a friendly relationship with your children misses the fundamental point in the parenting challenge: the responsibility felt and lived. This provides a feeling of security that is far different from feeling accepted in a friendly relationship. Children feel in this elevated awareness that something is expected of them, but at the same time, also know they are on "safe ground" to experiment, to try, and to fail. Such parenting builds trust and…mehr
The 29 Rules for Smart Parenting are intended to help the reader to become more effective as parents and teachers. On this basis, any advice to establish a friendly relationship with your children misses the fundamental point in the parenting challenge: the responsibility felt and lived. This provides a feeling of security that is far different from feeling accepted in a friendly relationship. Children feel in this elevated awareness that something is expected of them, but at the same time, also know they are on "safe ground" to experiment, to try, and to fail. Such parenting builds trust and establishes an inner basis on which self-confidence and personal responsibility can develop and mature.
Rolf Arnold, PhD, obtained his doctorate at the University of Heidelberg, Germany, in 1983 and his postdoctoral qualification at the Distance University of Hagen, Germany, in 1987. In 2017, he received an honorary doctorate (Dr. h.c) from the West University of Timi?oara, Romania. Since 1990, he has been Professor of Pedagogy (Vocational and Adult Education) at Technische Universität Kaiserslautern, Germany. He is also Scientific Director of the Distance and Independent Studies Centre (DISC), Kaiserslautern, Germany, and speaker of the Virtual Campus Rhineland-Palatinate (VCRP).
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Preface: Parenting requires substance and underpinning Rule 1: When you feel your child or adolescent is "difficult", before reacting out of anger or disappointment, go back to the source of your love! Rule 2: When confronted with violence - show no fear. Meet and defuse it by projecting a controlled presence! Rule 3: If you feel the need to impose sanctions or punishment, first perform a "culpability" check. Keep the level of punishment low in relation to the damages suffered! Rule 4: Live by the values you want your child to commit to in life! Rule 5: Don't just give an adequate response, have quid pro quo exchanges! Rule 6: Always look for the impression behind the expression! Rule 7: Surprise with an unexpected reaction! Rule 8: Respond with level-headedness and always be consequential! Rule 9: Create emotions if they have grown cold! Rule 10: Direct parenting measures at the behavior, not at the person! Rule 11: Practice consistency in child rearing! Rule 12: Exercise your "parental privilege" - the key to effective parenting! Rule 13: Put your child rearing practices under the "macroscope" and learn what is preventing your children from doing their homework! Rule 14: Control the amount of time your child is exposed to television and computers! Rule 15: Don't get forced into buying something just to avoid embarrassment! Rule 16: If you are frustrated, take time alone with your parenting principles and see the reflection in the mirror! Rule 17: Never forget: What bothers you is not your child's behavior, but rather your interpretation of that behavior! Rule 18: Ask questions that cause them to think - not interrogations that lead to predetermined conclusions! Practice the art of "active listening!" Rule 19: Always address every level of a child rearing problem! Rule 20: Use the BARE essentials: Bonding, Active involvement, Respect for boundaries, and Education! Rule 21: Make your child the center of attention from time to time! Love is vital! Rule 22: Improve the hidden learning influences in your child's environment! Rule 23: Give your children some space: a little distance can bring you closer! Rule 24: Teach your child self-discipline by looking beyond your fears and idealistic views! Rule 25: Avoid going down the "dead ends" of child rearing! Rule 26: Practice 2-way conversations! Rule 27: Escape from self-expectations and enjoy the diversity of the world! Rule 28: Provide encouragement, avoid disciplining! Rule 29: Avoid overreaction or apologize for it! Epilogue: The way out of the parenting doldrums References
Preface: Parenting requires substance and underpinning Rule 1: When you feel your child or adolescent is "difficult", before reacting out of anger or disappointment, go back to the source of your love! Rule 2: When confronted with violence - show no fear. Meet and defuse it by projecting a controlled presence! Rule 3: If you feel the need to impose sanctions or punishment, first perform a "culpability" check. Keep the level of punishment low in relation to the damages suffered! Rule 4: Live by the values you want your child to commit to in life! Rule 5: Don't just give an adequate response, have quid pro quo exchanges! Rule 6: Always look for the impression behind the expression! Rule 7: Surprise with an unexpected reaction! Rule 8: Respond with level-headedness and always be consequential! Rule 9: Create emotions if they have grown cold! Rule 10: Direct parenting measures at the behavior, not at the person! Rule 11: Practice consistency in child rearing! Rule 12: Exercise your "parental privilege" - the key to effective parenting! Rule 13: Put your child rearing practices under the "macroscope" and learn what is preventing your children from doing their homework! Rule 14: Control the amount of time your child is exposed to television and computers! Rule 15: Don't get forced into buying something just to avoid embarrassment! Rule 16: If you are frustrated, take time alone with your parenting principles and see the reflection in the mirror! Rule 17: Never forget: What bothers you is not your child's behavior, but rather your interpretation of that behavior! Rule 18: Ask questions that cause them to think - not interrogations that lead to predetermined conclusions! Practice the art of "active listening!" Rule 19: Always address every level of a child rearing problem! Rule 20: Use the BARE essentials: Bonding, Active involvement, Respect for boundaries, and Education! Rule 21: Make your child the center of attention from time to time! Love is vital! Rule 22: Improve the hidden learning influences in your child's environment! Rule 23: Give your children some space: a little distance can bring you closer! Rule 24: Teach your child self-discipline by looking beyond your fears and idealistic views! Rule 25: Avoid going down the "dead ends" of child rearing! Rule 26: Practice 2-way conversations! Rule 27: Escape from self-expectations and enjoy the diversity of the world! Rule 28: Provide encouragement, avoid disciplining! Rule 29: Avoid overreaction or apologize for it! Epilogue: The way out of the parenting doldrums References
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