With a New Introduction by the Author “Mating in Captivity takes a hard line against one of the most time-honored institutions in human history:the sexless marriage. . . . It reads like a cross between the works of Jacques Lacan and French Women Don’t Get Fat.”— The New Yorker A special twentieth-anniversary edition of the internationally bestselling and culturally groundbreaking book that cemented Esther Perel as the iconic relationship psychotherapist for today. “Is it any wonder that so many relationships crumble under the weight of it all?” In the twenty years since Mating in Captivity was published in 2006, it has become a global phenomenon, as has its author, Esther Perel. As a psychotherapist and thought leader, Perel is widely considered one of the world’s most original and respected voices on erotic intelligence. Drawing on decades of clinical experience, Mating in Captivity illuminates the complexities of sustaining desire in long-term relationships and shows how more playful, adventurous, and even poetic sex is possible. Wise, witty, and as revelatory as it is practical, Perel’s bold and provocative take on intimacy is ever more relevant today. In a new foreword, she reveals the personal origin story behind the book and reflects upon the many cultural shifts since its publication. This twentieth-anniversary edition invites us to reconsider the paradoxical union of domesticity and desire—and offers a guide to bringing lust home.
"As revelatory as it is straightforward . . . nicely accessible . . . Perel offers the estranged modern couple a unique richness of experience." - Publishers Weekly
"Perel tells us why intimacy can feel imprisoning and how we can embrace the erotic-without leaving home. Her writing is fresh and provocative, in a class by itself." - Janis Abrahms Spring, Ph.D., author of After the Affair: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful
"Her advice is refreshingly counterintuitive." - Salon.com
"Mating in Captivity takes a hard line against one of the most time-honored institutions in human history: the sexless marriage...It reads like a cross between the works of Jacques Lacan and French Women Don't Get Fat." - The New Yorker
"Mating in Captivity . . . articulates a poignant and unacknowledged modern crisis for the first time." - The Evening Standard (London)
"An elegant sociological study, complete with erudite literary and anthropological references." - Daily Telegraph (London)
"An academic perspective on the deterioration of sex in relationships...Perel offers insightful, progressive theories on how to put the play back into partnerships." - Daily Record & Sunday Mail
"A charming blend of wit and wisdom...this book will give you a fresh perspective on long-term love." - Gold Coast Bulletin (Australia)
"Well argued points written with considerable eloquence." - Jerusalem Post
"This is a brave book . . . refreshing." - The Times Higher Education Supplement
"So honest it hurts." - Irish Times
"An excellent book, full of provocative prose and entertaining case illustrations." - Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy
"Perel tells us why intimacy can feel imprisoning and how we can embrace the erotic-without leaving home. Her writing is fresh and provocative, in a class by itself." - Janis Abrahms Spring, Ph.D., author of After the Affair: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful
"Her advice is refreshingly counterintuitive." - Salon.com
"Mating in Captivity takes a hard line against one of the most time-honored institutions in human history: the sexless marriage...It reads like a cross between the works of Jacques Lacan and French Women Don't Get Fat." - The New Yorker
"Mating in Captivity . . . articulates a poignant and unacknowledged modern crisis for the first time." - The Evening Standard (London)
"An elegant sociological study, complete with erudite literary and anthropological references." - Daily Telegraph (London)
"An academic perspective on the deterioration of sex in relationships...Perel offers insightful, progressive theories on how to put the play back into partnerships." - Daily Record & Sunday Mail
"A charming blend of wit and wisdom...this book will give you a fresh perspective on long-term love." - Gold Coast Bulletin (Australia)
"Well argued points written with considerable eloquence." - Jerusalem Post
"This is a brave book . . . refreshing." - The Times Higher Education Supplement
"So honest it hurts." - Irish Times
"An excellent book, full of provocative prose and entertaining case illustrations." - Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy







