Warren Farrell, John Gray

The Boy Crisis

Why Our Boys Are Struggling and What We Can Do about It

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Produktbeschreibung

Bestselling authors Warren Farrell and John Gray (Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus) examine the issues plaguing young males and provide solutions for raising boys to grow up healthy and productive members of society, benefiting us all.

Produktdetails

• Verlag: BenBella Books
• Seitenzahl: 368
• Erscheinungstermin: 26. Februar 2019
• Englisch
• Abmessung: 239mm x 164mm x 48mm
• Gewicht: 742g
• ISBN-13: 9781942952718
• ISBN-10: 1942952716
• Artikelnr.: 49609960

Autorenporträt

Warren Farrell

Inhaltsangabe

Introduction
* My Personal Journey into The Boy Crisis
PART I: Is There Really a Boy Crisis?
1 The Crisis of Our Sons' Mental Health
2 The Crisis of Our Sons' Physical Health
3 The Crisis of Our Sons' Economic Health
4 The Crisis of Our Sons' Education
5 The Crisis of Our Sons Worldwide
6 Why Are We So Blind to the Boy Crisis?
PART II: Why the Boy Crisis Isn't Your Fault
7 The Boy Crisis: A Problem Created by a Solution
PART III: The Purpose Void
8 The Path-to-Purpose Generation Gap
1. The Power of Purpose
* "I never thought you cared enough to ask."
2. Your Son's Unconscious Wisdom
3. Can a "Real Man" Transition from Provider-Protector to Nurturer-Connector?
9 The "Hero Paradox": Value Yourself by Not Valuing Yourself
4. A Hero with a Thousand Faces
5. The Sirens of Social Bribes
* Social bribes: Mom, men, the media, the military
6. The Catch-22 of Your Son-as-Hero
10 Why Do More Marriages Fail in Countries That Succeed?
* The father's catch-22
* The Era of the Multi-Option Mom and the No-Option Dad
* How Did Our Daughters Avoid the Purpose Void?
* "Sorry, It's a Boy"
11 How Raising Our Sons Successfully in the Past Differs from Raising Our
Sons Successfully for Their Future
* Making Money Versus Making a Difference
* How to Guide Different Boys Toward Different Senses of Purpose
* Our Sons' New Sense of Purpose: The Hero's Journey to Emotional
Intelligence
* Son-Dropping
12 Raising a Balanced Son in an Out-of-Balance World
* What Happened to Pick-Up Team Sports?
* Helping Your Son Find His "Edge"
* Filling Your Son's Purpose Void: Your Son as Hero
PART IV: Dad-Deprived Boys vs. Dad-Enriched Boys
13 Dad-Deprived Boys
7. Boys Who Hurt, Hurt Us
* The Lost Boys: Mass shooters
* ISIS: A gang of dad-deprived boys?
8. Bio Dad: The Discovery of the Dad Brain
9. Careers Are for Now; Children Are Forever
10. The Absence of Dad Creates the Presence of Government
14 Why Are Dads So Important?
* Let Me Count the Ways
15 Rediscovering Dad
* The Generation of the Dad Rich Versus the Dad Poor
* When Does Dad Begin to Matter?
* Stepdad or Bio Dad: Does it Make a Difference?
16 What Dads Do Differently
* Boundary Enforcement (Versus Boundary Setting)
* Exploring Nature, Taking Risks
* Roughhousing: Dad as a Rough, Tough Cream Puff
* "Teachable Moments": A Little Pain for a Lot of Gain
* Challenging the Kids' Limits
* Hangout Time
* Teasing: Emotional Intelligence Training, Dad-Style?
* The Conditional or Hierarchical Dad
* The Worrier and the Warrior: The Checks and Balances of Parenting
17 In the Case of Divorce . . . The Four "Must-Dos"
18 The Father Warrior: Why Fathering Will Be a New Male Sense of Purpose
* com: The Father Warrior Meets the Have-It-All Woman
* If Men Get Paid More, Is It Realistic for a Dad to Be the Primary
Parent?
19 DAD: Discrimination Against Dads
* "It Doesn't Feel Right When I See Them Together"
* Moms Have the Right to Children, Dads Have to Fight for Children
* How Did Father Knows Best Become Father Knows Less?
* Guiding Your Son to "Make a Difference"
20 The Best Parent is Both Parents, But . . .
11. The Best "Parent" is an Attitude Shift
* Fighting in front of the kids
* No one asked why the men were drinking
* Cheap fun for dad and son
* Dad-inspiring movies
12. When the Best "Parent" Cannot Be Both Parents
* The Cub Scouts and character
* Mentoring and rite-of-passage programs
* Grandfather time
* When the biological father is missing, can God the Father help?
21 From "Cultural Shrug" to Cultural Shift
13. Kill Today, Love Tomorrow: The Military Dad Dilemma
14. From Father's Dime to Father's Time
15. The Government: As Problem, as Solution
* Creating a White House Council on Boys and Men
16. Our Dads, Our Sons, Our Guns
22 Creating Dad-Enriched Families
PART V: Heroic Intelligence Versus Health Intelligence
23 Heroic Intelligence Versus Health Intelligence
17. Biologically, Girls Just Live Longer, Right?
18. Social Bribes: Hollywood-Heroic Health Versus Mental and Physical Health
* Does the new heroine mean your son won't have to risk his life for
her love?
19. Health Intelligence Inventory
20. Boys' Weakness as Their Facade of Strength
21. Your Son's Body, Not His Choice
* "First and ten, concussion again!"
* My son wants to join the military. Is this good news or bad news?
22. Your Son's Body, Your Son's Choice: Resisting the Sirens of Social Bribes
24 Emotional Intelligence and Mental Health
23. The Barriers to a Boy's Emotional Intelligence
24. Behind Your Son's Mask
* "I'm fine . . . Just leave me alone."
* Helping your son take risks in life without risking his life
25. How Heroic Intelligence and Emotional Intelligence Play Out in Everyday
Life
* Moving to better neighborhoods helps girls and hurts boys
* The bully and the bullied
* Helping both the bully and the bullied
26. Eighteen Steps Toward Integrating Emotional and Physical Health
Intelligence into Heroic Intelligence
25 Reversing Depression, Preventing Suicide
27. Causes of Suicide
* Women cry, men die
* If no human doing, no human being
* Suicide is contagious
28. Diagnosing Danger: The Warren Farrell Male Depression/Suicide Inventory
(WFMDI)
29. Preventing Suicide
26 Hidden Hazards to Your Son's Health
* The "Sperm Crisis": To Be, or Not to Be
* Drinking and Drugs
* The Unholy Trinity: Obesity, Diabetes, and Erectile Dysfunction
27 From Hurt People Hurting People to Healed People Healing People
* Refilling the Empathy Void
* Couples' Communication: Your Children's Best Inheritance
PART VI: ADHD: Treatment With or Without Medication
28 The New Neural Crisis
* A New Spin on ADHD
29 The Four Faces of ADHD
30 The Many Causes of ADHD
* Addressing the Cause to Heal the Brain
31 Natural Solutions to Restore Dopamine Function
32 Natural Supplements for Better Brain Performance
Conclusion
* Your Mission: Guiding Your Son to Discover His Mission
* Extending Gender Liberation to Dads
* From Cultural Shrug to Cultural Mission: A Gender Liberation Movement
Appendix A: Family Dinner Night: The Five Essentials
Appendix B: The Boy Crisis List: The Benefits of Dad, the Dangers of Dad
Deprivation
Bibliography
Acknowledgments
About the Authors